As Mark Twain said, assured success is based on confidence. And confidence requires a vast knowledge of one’s own self.
Real success is the success with one’s self. Having victory over oneself.
Believing deep down that you can do it, you deserve it, and you will get the rewards at the end.
Self-confidence, self-awareness and self-reflection are the critical ingredients to self-realisation.
You are unique. You are not like anyone else on the planet. And you’re not supposed to be.
Nevertheless, most people go through their entire life without understanding this. They choose to follow the masses.
Why? Is “agreeing not to be one of them” a less fulfilling way to live?
If you want to be wrong, then follow the masses. – Socrates
Have you ever wondered what differentiates winners from the masses? It is a person’s self-image.
What is self-image? Self-image is a subconsciously programmed paradigm, or habitual thoughts and beliefs about one’s actual being, displaying an attitude with prominent exterior presentations.
Put it bluntly. The feelings and the results one person possesses in his life is an excellent indication of self-image. Great feelings, great results, great self-image. Limited feelings, limited results, limited self-image.
Dr Maxwell Maltz pointed it out in his book (1960, Simon & Schuster) Psycho-Cybernetics that one has two levels of seeing ourselves, two levels of self-image. And the self-image which determines our results is a deeply rooted cybernetic mechanism.
It sets the course of one’s life in agreement with the self-image, which is pre-programmed in the subconscious mind.
What programs the subconscious mind? Past experiences. Your successes and failures. Your humiliations and triumphs. And the way other people have treated you, especially during early childhood. Also, your beliefs you formed about yourself through events and circumstances.
Once a belief about yourself enters the subconscious mind, it becomes “true” without you questioning its validity. You will become who and what you think about.
Right now, you may not be clear on the details of the mental picture you have of yourself. But make no mistake, they are there.
You build your entire personality, your behaviour, and even your circumstances on your self-image. It is the foundation of everything you are, do and have. Therefore, your experiences verify and reinforce the image you are holding. This sets up a vicious or beneficial cycle, depending on how you see yourself.
To change a self-image, first, take account of what is happening in your life right now. Look at the various aspects of your life. Look at the results you’re getting in your relationships, your income, the position you hold at work and your appearance. These are all the outer expression of the inner image.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is attempting to change things that are outside of themselves (such as their income or business) without changing what’s going on inside. This approach never works. You must direct your energy to improve the mental picture you have of yourself instead of trying to change outside circumstances, such as going on a diet, starting a new business or leaving a marriage.
Go inside and take a real close look with your inner eye of understanding. See if you’re beginning to see yourself, from within, as the person you want to be.
You want to present yourself physically in a manner that is consistent with the new winning image that you are developing. Something as simple as how you dress, how you walk, and how you project yourself, sends a compelling message to your subconscious mind. It also sends a strong message to everyone in your external world.
During the transition period, when you’re in the process of implanting your winner’s image in the subconscious, you will perceive two people—the old you and the new you. Every time you see yourself as a failure or lacking in some way, shift your focus to the winning you.
To re-make your life, you must build a winner’s self-image. As soon as you start to alter the image, everything outside will begin to change.
Two Powerful Self-Image Techniques That You Could Benefit From:
Visualising: Take 10-20 minutes, two or three times a day, to visualise yourself with the beautiful things you’d like to have or do. Allow yourself to completely relax so you can feel what you want down to your cells. Live the part while you are visualising.
Practice this for the next 30 days to see what difference it makes in your life. View your world like a winner does–aware of abundance, and a shift in focus necessary to see the good in every situation.
Creating a Vision Board: Burn the images of how you want to live on the screen of your mind. Look for detailed photos of what you want in your life and create your vision board. Have it framed and place it in your study or your office. Make a screensaver of the board, and put it on your phone or iPad.
“We come this way but once. We can either tiptoe through life and hope to get to death without being badly bruised, or we can live a full, complete life achieving our goals and realising our wildest dreams.” – Bob Proctor
Develop the awareness and courage to live your life, your way. You will need to leave your false and limited image of yourself behind. Only then you will embark on the real journey of your true self.